9 Tips for Becoming More Emotionally Intelligent
What is Emotional Intelligence? (Lindsay Kolowich | @lkolo25)
Emotional intelligence is a form of social intelligence. Someone who has high emotional intelligence is able to recognize and monitor their own and others’ feelings and emotions, to engage with and navigate them, and then to use that emotional information to guide their own thinking and action.
I like to think of emotionally intelligent people kind of like detectives. Every time they interact with someone, they’re able to uncover the emotional pieces that are missing from what a person actually says out loud. Then, they’re also able to use that emotional information in an effective way, like to become a better manager, a better teammate, or a better friend.
A Harvard-trained psychologist named Daniel Goleman expanded the definition of emotional intelligence into a set of 19 competencies that signal whether someone is emotionally intelligent. These signs are broken into four categories:
- Social Awareness
- Effective Relationship Management
There are many, long-lasting benefits to making efforts to increase your emotional intelligence. For one, studies have shown that emotional intelligence can be more important than raw skill in many cases. Perhaps most importantly, having high emotional intelligence can help you create and maintain more meaningful relationships — both at work and in your personal life.
The good news is, no matter your personality and emotional tendencies, there are things you can do to increase your emotional intelligence. To help you understand how, check out the tips below.
1) Observe your own emotional tendencies.
2) Don’t judge yourself.
3) Learn to control your negative emotions.
4) Learn to express difficult emotions when necessary (and appropriate).
5) Take a genuine interest in what people are saying.
6) Ask relevant questions.
7) Pay attention to body language.
8) Take responsibility for your actions.
9) Practice open-mindedness.